Where are you on the pendulum of forgetting, connecting?


People are coded in such a perfect way that regardless of the level of pain, loss and grief they go through, they very often move on quickly and reconnect to their daily lives, passions and dreams as if life was without end and they are immortal. In essence, one of the most significant codes is embedded in this connection because without it people would struggle to move on.

Regardless of one's circumstances, death is inescapable. This has been and continues to be the eventual verity for humankind. Despite this, one's attachment to this world is to such an unbelievable extent that it causes injustice, pain and inequality around the world.

This fine contrast between the everlasting phenomenon of death and people's passionate connection to this world is another aspect of this code. What feeds this everlasting contrast? Why is there this level of passion for various things when the current population will also become a matter of the past just like previous populations? This is also to do with other codes embedded in people. And one of these codes is the never-ending craving for this world, be it wealth, beauty, crops, land, fame, status and so on. Another one is having the ability to forget or disconnect from death. Just imagine if people were not able to forget. Could they survive or have the ability to continue well-balanced lives? Paradoxically, in people's ability to forget by reconnecting to this world, there is a contrasting remedy that allows us to continue with our lives.

However, would people inflict the level of pain, injustice and atrocities they inflict on one another if they did not forget that those who came before them eventually faced the inescapable and most of the time unannounced verity? Would people do whatever it takes to secure wealth, status and their various dreams at the expense of their fellow human beings if they were not able to forget? Would people be more watchful, considerate and mindful if they were able to remember that what was verily there for those who came before them would eventually come for them one way or the other?

We are all aware that we enter a completely different mood when we experience the loss of someone dear to us. We start to look at everything through different eyes. We probably start to be more careful, mindful and understanding in our relationships with others. The most meaningful can become the most meaningless in our lives due to being immersed in the reality of the temporality of our lives.

Well, imagine that you are reminded dozens of times a day that you will pass away one day, and you will be held responsible for any tiny deed, bad or good, that you have done. Imagine that you are reminded daily that you should do right and keep a righteous path. Imagine that you are reminded that you have an obligation to help those in need, give a certain amount of your wealth to the poor, keep family ties strong and intact, safeguard the right and wealth of orphans, avoid mischief and injustice, render trust to who they are due and, when you judge people, judge with justice and not let hatred prevent you from being just, not to say to your parents so much as "ugh," and do not repel them, but speak to them a noble world.

Regardless of the source of these reminders, what is embedded in these reminders is mindfulness, thoughtfulness and care. And what would be the chances for people to do bad if all these reminders were to permeate their minds, hearts and souls? A person with these values will have to really weigh each of their actions with absolute care because they will know that an atom's weight of their good or bad deed will not go uncounted for.

The source of all this mindfulness, thoughtfulness and care is Muslims' guide, the Quran. One can argue that there are almost 2 billion Muslims in the world, and yet the positive reflections of this are yet to be seen. Various reasons could be listed for this, but one fact is that people who identify themselves as Muslims are mostly oblivious of the guidance in the Quran. For example, according to a very recent, large-scale survey conducted in Turkey by MAK Consultancy, although the majority of participants identified themselves as Muslims, 60 percent of them reported that they have never read the meaning of verses in the Quran and 23 percent did not answer this question.

In an age when the taboos of old are becoming norms and new sacred concepts are emerging in every field, humankind's ordeal with itself is becoming ever greater simply because people's self-centeredness is becoming ever stronger, and so are his connection to the various components of this world, which reminds us of the late Iranian sociologist Ali Shariati's assertion regarding people's most difficult prison, which he identifies as the self – a self that is disconnected from the realities of the past and completely rejects anything that is not instant and beyond the here and now, a self that refuses to recognize that it has limits and boundaries, a self-worshiping self.